What are the benefits of manifesting?

The greatest gift of manifesting is that it helps you become the person you've always wanted to be. It helps you step into a more confident and empowered version of yourself, and in doing so, you’re then more able to go after big dreams and goals and persist through the challenges that might deter you from getting there … because the more self-belief you have, the more resilient you are to challenges.

What are some common misconceptions people have of manifesting?

A lot of people think that manifesting is a ritual that you do for 20 minutes a day. That’s not how I see manifestation. I see it as a life practice.

Manifestation gives you a sense of empowerment and hope, and those two things combined really propel you to make different decisions … and be the change that you are looking for.

Have you experienced self-doubt or imposter syndrome in your work?

Of course. I used to really get nervous … even when I was writing my [first] book. I kept thinking: I’m not a real writer—I’d never written a book before. I didn’t read other books in that period of time, because I knew that if I read any, I would compare myself, and then it would really fuel this self-doubt that would stop me.

I think everybody starts somewhere. I’ve definitely grown in confidence over the last couple of years. It’s always natural to suffer from self-doubt; [with manifestation practices] you’re much better equipped to deal with that and not spiral with it.

Can manifestation be a useful tool to combat what you’ve just described?

Definitely. Step two of my manifestation process is remove fear and doubt. Step three, aligning your behaviour, is part of that. It’s about stepping into the character of your higher self. The first few times I went on stage, I was so nervous and my legs would be like jelly. And I used to visualise the future me, full of confidence, walking on stage in front of thousands of people. My voice wouldn’t shake, my legs wouldn’t feel like jelly and I would be able to deliver a really moving, inspirational speech. 

Let’s say you’re going on a date or into an important meeting—and you’re nervous. Think about your future self; your most empowered self. How would they walk into that situation? What would their body language be like? What would they say? Visualising it before it happens is a very powerful tool to help your subconscious mind prepare itself.

What inspired you to begin your work as a speaker in live workshops and shows? 

I was listening to … different philosophers and speakers, and realised that all of them talked about manifesting, even if they weren’t using the term. I felt very inspired by speakers like Brené Brown [the American academic and podcaster who speaks about shame, vulnerability and leadership] and [famed American self-help guru] Tony Robbins. I loved the idea that you could listen to one speech, read one book or listen to one podcast—and that one line that someone said can just be the thing that changes your life forever. I really wanted to be able to go on stage and perhaps give someone that opportunity to change their lives.

Manifesting seems to be more popular with women. What are your thoughts on this? 

Perhaps that women are just more open minded to the concept of it. But actually, when you break down manifesting, it doesn’t matter what gender you are.

I’m all about female empowerment [and] allowing women to feel that they can take up space; that they can do anything; that they can be seen, heard and valued; and that they are worthy of respect and love. I think manifesting is an incredibly beneficial practice for them.

What is your advice for people whose manifestations haven’t come to fruition?

If something isn’t manifesting in somebody’s life, it usually comes back to fear and doubt, [which] holds them back. I would ask someone: what do you believe you’re worthy of—and what more healing can be done? 

I think [a romantic partner] is one of the hardest things for people to manifest, because [many have] deeply rooted wounds around feeling worthy of unconditional love. 

Another thing that really stops people from manifesting is that they get so obsessed with their goals—and that obsession turns into desperation. I always say the real gold dust of the manifesting process is knowing what you want but not being emotionally attached to the outcome. People think: I’ll be happy when I get this job; I’ll feel validated when I meet this person; but actually, happiness is built along the journey, and that way, you can feel excited for your goals but not desperate for them.

How can people apply manifestation to their leadership skills—in business as well as with their family and the community?

In many ways, the seven-step manifesting process can just as easily be a business plan, because you apply it in the same way—having clarity in your goals; building confidence in your team; making sure that people are willing to take risks when needed and step outside their comfort zone.

With step four, embracing gratitude, it is about having a positive mindset, looking at what you have and what you can offer, and then turning envy into inspiration. I think it is a brilliant step for businesses—you’re not looking at competitors and allowing it to hold you back, but [rather] allowing it to inspire you as to what’s possible, and then having trust and faith. The way that I conduct my own business is certainly through these seven steps.

What can the audience expect from you at the upcoming Dragonfly H.E.A.L Summit in Bangkok?

I’m giving a 30-minute talk. There will be an overview of my seven steps and a Q&A, which I always love. I love being able to hear people’s real-life stories—what they’re going through, how it’s worked for them and what they’re struggling with. And what’s incredible is when people in the audience are vulnerable, the connection between the whole room is so moving.

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